The Gift of Forgiveness
I never plan to write a Love - Letter to you. I never know or choose what will be next. Usually these writings start with me giving myself a wee talking to. Reminding myself of what I need to hear at the time. Writing it down helps it to soak in to every cell in my body. It makes me a little more present with it. And then, I share it with you - with the awareness that if I needed to be reminded of these things, maybe someone else does too. After all, we are in this life together :-)
Latest Blog - Forgiveness
What do we spend most of our time thinking about? It's a really great question to ask yourself. It creates awareness to where we are sending our energy. Often 'what's on your mind' will replay over and over. Often we are imagining outcomes and guessing why what or hows. They are all stories, our own stories that we are writing. Sometimes we play out those stories, sometimes not. I think it's important to remember that one thought can lead an army of thoughts - we need to choose our leader carefully.
A quote that I like reminding myself of is 'what you seek, you shall surely find'. Often we are judgey. We love to judge people when we are insecure because it gives us a false sense of superiority over whoever we are judging. Instead we can choose to look to someone with compassion - remembering we all do the best with what we have at the time. And often - we were in some part, that person once! We are all the same, just on different stages of the same journey. We are all learning our lessons as we go, different circumstances or situations but the same lessons presented. When I run my expressive workshops, I hear everyone express what's going on for them. And most of the time, I can relate to their stories. We aren't alone in what we are experiencing here on earth, but sometimes it feels like it - until we are in a safe space to open up and share.
Often one of the things we really need to learn to do on our journeys, is to forgive. Forgiveness is not a weakness but a strength and an act of love. What good does resentment do for us? None. It creates inner turmoil that takes over our thoughts and literally takes up space, space that could be filled with joy instead. Forgiveness is something we need to lovingly give to ourselves first. Often when we hold a grudge against someone, we are also angry or disappointed with ourselves for the part we played in the given scenario. Forgive yourself and it will overflow to others. Holding on to a grudge can make us feel a false sense of power over that person. Like we are punishing them. It's ego. We are punishing ourselves. Often our ego tells us that it is protecting us by holding on to these things. It's make believe. And It's painful. Holding resentment or a grudge, if we are honest with ourselves, doesn't feel good. And often when we hold onto these things, it gives dis-ease a reason to manifest in our bodies. Forgiveness is healing. Forgiveness is powerful, it's freedom. Forgiveness is love. Choose to give yourself and others this gift. I'm not suggesting this is easy, especially if you've carried something around for a long time, but I do believe it's essential. And I know by doing our work, consciously choosing to let go and forgive, we can heal and let go of all that which no longer serves us. And the best place to start always, is by loving yourself through your chosen practices that you integrate into your daily life.
An exercise for forgiveness of others:
See the good in them. One of my fave quotes is 'see the light in others and treat them as if that is all you see'. Try it. If you have an issue with someone, try writing down all the good things about them. We all have our good bits! Shift your focus from the past hurt to a present positive about this person. A shift in perception creates a shift in the way we see and feel about this person. It loosens the big grudgey knot we have against them in our hearts. It's so easy to gather evidence against someone. Try the opposite, try being on their side. Even if that means saying - they did the best with what they had at the time - or - even just remembering that nothing that anyone else does is about you. It's about them. We project onto others what we are feeling on the inside. It could be joy, it could be pain. And that's where compassion comes in. The only thing stopping us from forgiveness is our own ego. Forgiveness is free and can be accessible at all times. It may take work, but it's worth it. We are worth it 💜